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About 16 girls, around 16 years old were reported to be pregnant in Gloucester, and at least 50% of those became pregnant by choice or made a pact to bring up kids. So, what’s shocking about it?

Teens getting pregnant is hardly news. What’s startling is perhaps the number of pregnancies shot up 4 times (in just one school!), it’s also about the pacts that the girls reportedly made, and that some of the girl’s partners are in their 20s. And the school administration seems to be shocked over the welfare of these kids.

Ironically, everyone seems to be shocked except for the girls who made the choice. Remember that some of the girls even got depressed when they found they hadn’t yet conceived. It seems that only now, the girls might be shocked because everyone around them seems to be. But there’s a contention that the girls are too young to apprise the reality, aren’t they? So is it enough reason this one, because one of the parents (father) expressed that he let it be, because he cared for his girl’s happiness!

So what it is that’s so shocking? Is it that some of the girl’s partners, who’re in their 20s may have committed statuary ****. Or that, it’s now a long hard road ahead for the girls. Or that quadrupling of the number of pregnancies is startling (is just one school’s stats representative of the whole country?). Or are they the public costs that can be saved by curbing teenage pregnancies. As for costs, teenage childbearing public costs were $120 billion from 1985 to 1990, and that $48 billion would have been saved if the pregnancies came about, if mothers were in their 20s.

Another aspect that surprises me is that on the one hand, there are people who who have to depend on pharmaceuticals called fertility drugs to conceive, and on the other there are the teenage pregnancies (which are for the most part undesirable). Different people seem to think differently. What do you think about it?



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Anonymus asked:


My name is Angel Nicole Roberts, and if you are reading this that must mean that you have had the pleasure of visiting The Official Website Of Elizabeth Anne Claire Roberts This website was created by my husband in order for all our family near and far to help us join in the celebration of our beautiful little girl being brought into this world. Every now and then I will be writing an article that has something to do with the life of being a mother. It might be something that I have heard on the news or it could just be helpful tips that I would like to pass on to other parents. I will weigh in with my opinions and are more than welcoming to all of yours. I would like to start these articles with a topic that is close to my heart and that I have a lot to say about. The subject of my first article will about Teen Pregnancy.

Did you know that every year there are about 750,000 teen pregnancies in the United States? Out of those 750,000 pregnancies, eight out of ten are unplanned and 81% are to unmarried teens.

If you are a teen hoping that this article will give you the upper hand in your quest to have a baby, I want to inform you that it will not do so. This article is not to encourage any teen to have a baby and I hope no one views it as such. Having said that I hope that if any teen is pregnant they will have the courage and the responsibility to do what is right. Now what is right for one isnt always right for the other. I dont know anyones situation and mine is different than yours.

I do know however that half of all pregnancies in the United States are unplanned, that equals out to about 3 million pregnancies a year. One third of the women in this country will have gotten pregnant at least once before the age of 20. Also teens that get pregnant are more likely to drop out of school, stay unwed, and actually score lower in math and science.

I am currently 17 years of age. I have a wonderful husband and a beautiful (check out her pictures) baby girl. If you were to look at me and no nothing of me except that I have a baby, you might think that I was careless in my actions. To think that would be the normal reaction that most people get when they see a young person such as myself with a baby. But look closer, or just take a chance to get to know me and you will know that what you thought of me, isnt the case.

I was 16 years of age when I got pregnant; I was also 16 years of age when I decided to get married, please note that I got married before I found out I was pregnant. But along with my decisions, is my history. I had already graduated, I was living on my own, and successfully sustaining a home with my now husband. His name is Chet Roberts. He is a high school graduate and one of the smartest people I know. Together we face many challenges being new parents. We have had set backs and road bumps, just like any other husband and wife. We argue and say things we dont mean, but even in the hardest of times, we stick together.

With the economy the way it is now a days worth of money is as precious as air. And having a child doesnt make that air more readily available. Studies have shown that on average, raising a child can cost anywhere between a quarter to half a million dollars from birth to age 17. And teen pregnancy is also extremely expensive for this country. Every year it costs the United States $7 billion dollars!

So would I tell my daughter that its okay to get pregnant at the age I did? The answer is simply No. And why is that? Its because if my daughter has to ask me if its the right thing to do, she isnt mature enough or in the situation to make that decision. My pregnancy wasnt planned, but even if it was I didnt have to ask for permission. I was a woman on my own living with her husband. I wasnt a 16 year old girl sneaking out to see her boyfriend.

The issue of pregnancy to me shouldnt be centered on age. It should be centered on maturity. I know people that have had to take care of their parents since they were 10 years old, and they have more maturity than people three times their age. Life gives each and every one of us our own experiences and those experiences make us grow. Most of us learn from our mistakes and try hard not to repeat them. There are so many aspects for people (not just teens) to consider when thinking about having children. You have to make sure that you will be able to do what is in the best interest of the child. Now no parent will ever get the perfection award, and thats not what being a parent is about.

My point of this article is to try and end a stereotype that is offensive to me. Peoples age is only a factor when their maturity makes it that way. Until people are mature enough to understand what life is about they shouldnt have children. And that goes for people of all ages. Until my next topic..Later!!!!



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Ugochukwu Uche asked:


In a sad way, I find it somewhat amusing when mass media and some parents routinely propose or actually go ahead in giving their teens leniency in regards to breaking universal rules and values around dating and ***. I find this amusing because I routinely have young girls come in to see me or request advice via my website, about their realization that they have become pregnant, and lost as to what course of action to take. Recently I saw a fifteen year old, who was contemplating giving her year old son for adoption, because she had reached her wits end with him. The child, like any one year old, fast approaching his second birthday, has become more active and demanding for attention. These examples are just dealing with teen pregnancy and teen parent hood, I have not begun to go into the adolescent clients diagnosed with herpes, and yes HIV, I have seen in the past.

So yes, I find the glorification of *** with adolescents in today’s culture somewhat amusing because, no one ever brags about staying up all night with a crying baby, or being infected with HIV. If you are a parent, there are three lessons you need to teach your teen about ***.

Lesson One

Just as you sat with your toddler (or maybe not), and watched Elmo and friends shamelessly talk about the basics of potty training, you should sit with your teen and shamelessly talk about the basics of ***. From sexual attraction, to arousal, to fore play and ***********. This difficult and needful conversation has to cover not just sex, but the science behind it. From the differences between the male and female genitalia, to what changes to expect during puberty, pregnancy and sexual transmitted infections.

Lesson Two

So you have gone over the bells and whistles of *** and it’s consequences with your teen, now what? Protection. That’s right, go ahead; talk about the use of a condom and it’s researched statistic, as well as the use of birth control. Condoms if used correctly, will work a hundred percent of the time, ninety-eight percent to account for human error. Then there is the science and timing of birth control pills, explain to your son or daughter what happens if one pill is missed, and the success rate even if the pills are taken on a consistent basis.

Lesson Three

This is the most important lesson of all, as it has to do with the what if scenarios. What if your daughter gets pregnant? What if your son gets a sexual transmitted infection, or becomes a father? The focus of this lesson is to teach your teen, that nothing is guaranteed or set in stone, and that their daily choices could trigger a number of infinite possibilities. As a responsible parent, your what if response should be tailored towards supporting your teen, but not enabling or bailing them out of trouble.

Teaching these three lessons will not eliminate the possibilities of your teen contracting a sexual transmitted infection or becoming a teen parent, but it will go a long ways towards decreasing the likelihood.

Ugo Uche MS., LPC

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Liz Johnson asked:


nancy is just one of many teenage relationship dangers. However, it is one that can lead to a lifetime of complications for both the parents as well as the child brought into the world. If you are a parent of a teen, it is important that you realize the full danger of this particular situation. You should do all that you are able to in order to learn what you can about teen pregnancy, and then you should educate your teen – whether you have a son, or a daughter. Many parents make the mistake of leaving it up to schools to educate their children on this topic. You should avoid this mistake. It is your responsibility – no one elses.

The first thing that you should understand when it comes to teenage pregnancy is that it is generally not planned. Most all pregnancies that occur with girls that are under the age of eighteen are unplanned. Teenagers who are involved in dating or relationships may feel compelled to engage in sexual activities with the person that they are with. This often comes as a result of peer pressure. In many unfortunate cases, it may come as a result of sexual assault, or even date ****. Teenagers should have a full and complete understanding of the risks associated with engaging with sexual *********** at such a young age. They could experience health complications such as sexually transmitted diseases, and even become pregnant.

There are so many complications involved for a teenager that gets pregnant. Studies have found that teens are at a higher risk of having a child born with a birth defect. Common birth defects include cleft lip, spinal bifida, and even mental retardation. This mostly occurs because of the fact that the teenage body is still in the process of developing and growing. Then, it has the added strain of supporting a growing fetus. As a result many serious situations may arise. The fetus may not get the proper nutrition, the right amount of oxygen, and the development may be slow. In addition to this, the mother carrying the child can experience high blood pressure, gestational diabetes, slow weight gain due to high metabolism, and other problems associated with hormonal imbalances.

Steps to Prevent Teen Pregnancy:

1. Set a clear basis on the values that you have towards *** and also the attitudes that you carry regarding your expectations of your childs sexual preferences. It is important that you are open and you clearly state what you believe your child should and should not do.

2. Do not be afraid to discuss *** with your teenager. Do not run from it. It happens, and it will if your child is not educated on the topic. It is your responsibility to be open and answer the questions that your child has.

3. Be certain that you specify to your teenager that there are always consequences to their actions. Inform them of the fact that there are many teenage relationship dangers and being sexually active, getting a disease, and becoming pregnant are three of them.

If you follow these steps, it is likely your teenager will not have to face these teenage relationship dangers.

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jane maria asked:


The teenage years may be particularly trying for years to parents and children about their sexuality, for the first time in their lives. Raging hormones and a newfound sense of independence may induce teens to act in ways that are irresponsible. The worst repercussion of this could be a teenage pregnancy.

The study also indicates that early teens have *** in an age may be less likely to show delinquent behaviour in early adulthood as their fellow age, waited until they were older to have ***.

Although there has been a recent decline in teen pregnancy. Teen pregnancy is still a big problem in the United States. Every year one million teens get pregnant. The United States has the highest rate of teen pregnancy (out of all the developed countries) in the world.

The study also suggests that early *** may play a role in helping these teens develop better social relationships in early adulthood. The finding is published in the current online edition of the Journal of Youth and Adolescence, and runs counter to most assumptions that relate early teen *** to later drug use, criminality, antisocial behavior and emotional problems. The finding also contradicts parts of a study published earlier this year in the same journal that found a connection between early teen *** and later behavioral problems.

There are things you can do to guard against teenage pregnancy:

Talk. Uncomfortable as it may initially be, talk to your teen about safe ***.

Teach. Help your child to develop a healthy attitude toward ***.

Supervise. Always allow your child to have healthy interactions with the opposite ***. At the same time, experts recommend that you discourage single dating, or ‘going steady’, until your child is at least 16 years old.

Protect. Ensure that your teen stays away from drugs or alcohol.

Encourage. Cultivate frankness in your children and encourage them to talk with you about all their problems.

Effects on the Body of Teens

The reason is that such a problem is that not only teens body still developing, but it is the degree of responsibility in some cases. The teen usually doesnt realize how much care your body needs while pregnant. A big percentage of young mothers have children with a low birth rate, which could cause the child problems throughout his/her entire life. Younger mothers also have a high rate of infant death than older women. The teens body is still developing.

Stress on the teens body and mind cause major health risks not only for the teen but the baby as well. With everything that is going on inside the teens body her hormones are usually extremely out of whack. All of this along with trying to tell your parents about the pregnancy can cause a lot of stress.

A lot of teens are doing drugs and drinking alcohol. Becoming pregnant as a teen can make this habit more alluring. With so many things on your mind as a teen, it seems easier sometimes to get high and, everything that was hard goes away for that short period of time.

This causes even more havoc to the baby and teen. It is so important for growth and development to abstain from mind-altering chemicals etc. The teen often doesnt have the knowledge to know that doing things like this can cause major side-effects to her or her baby.

For the lower rates of teenage pregnancy, start by exchanging knowledge. Everybody should know, teen risks related to pregnancy and adolescence, even on the consequences of *** at a young age. Eighty percent of teenage mothers divorce High School and lack of education they need to Excel. Let us help you, these figures are lower.

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Kacy Carr asked:


How many times does a parent have to remind their child about contraception and sexually transmitted diseases. What does it take for a parent to be heard. Some children just do not listen and choose to ignore the best advice any parent can give to their child. It is hard for a parent to see their child raising a child. Unwanted pregnancies are sad situations, however if the damage is done then face up to your responsibilities

Matters tend to get out of hand by leaving it to late to consult a doctor or talking to your parents. You could be putting yourself and that of your unborn child in danger. If you have any inclination that you are pregnant seek help right away. What mum and dad might say may be causing you unnecessary worry. I can not say that they will be happy with the news you are about to spring on them. Remember at the end of the day this is your mum and what do mums do they give their support.

Words may be spoken in raised voice like “I told you this would happen” or “How could you have been so stupid”.

After mum has calmed down and accepted she is going to be a grandmother the situation eases.

If ever you needed anyone to give you support throughout your teenage pregnancy it is your mum so talk to her. Contraception should be used to help prevent an unwanted pregnancy or STD. Which is the worst an unwanted teen pregnancy or a STD. Well they both come with a life sentence i.e heartache and pain and any partying stops here?

Come on girls and boys this is the 21st century so no need to destroy your childhood. I am not saying that every teen pregnancy has not worked out, but for a great many it has ruined their lives. Do you want to raise a baby, especially one that has ruined your life. Will you ever love that infant in the way you should? Sadly many teen mums don’t so the innocent baby has to suffer.

Most teenage mothers end up raising their child on their own all because daddy is still growing up too.

Come on girls and boys think of the consequences. If you choose to ignore all the golden rules then you have to accept the consequences. Please have yourself checked over by a doctor early to make sure that there are no complications. I do not wish to frighten you but teen mums that have not fully reached puberty themselves may need extra care and attention.

People who deal with situations as such are very understanding and compassionate towards any concerns relating to teen pregnancies.

If you find talking on the matter embarrasses you, then ask a friend to go with you and let them do the talking. If all fails in getting you to speak with some one, then next time you collect your pocket money – consider buying a condom not a cornet.



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